How Do I Keep My Wife Satisfied When My Libido Took A Hike Due To Pregnancy?

How Do I Keep My Wife Satisfied When My Libido Took A Hike Due To Pregnancy?

Dear Thalia,


I'm expecting a child in a few months, and I have lost all desire for sex.

My wife has had two children and i know that when she was pregnant, she was insatiable and constantly in the mood. I feel bad for rejecting her advances, but i just don't want sex! I've talked to her about it and she always says "It's fine." but i think she is just trying to make me feel better.

How do I make her realize that i still want her without becoming a tease?

Sincerely,

Expecting

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Help! I'm Thirty-Two Years Old And I've Never Had An Orgasm

Help! I'm Thirty-Two Years Old And I've Never Had An Orgasm

Dear Thalia,

 
I'm nearly thirty-two years old and I've never had an orgasm. I have had sex with one man (well lad) in the past, before I came out, and basically did it because I was trying to be straight. Yeah that didn't work. It was basically uncomfortable and painful each of the few times it happened. 
Since coming out about eight years ago I haven't even attempted to date. This is for two reasons. The first is I'm disabled and it's hard to get out. The second, and probably the biggest reason, is because I am worried about sex. 

If I can't even give myself an orgasm how could I please someone else?

I read a lot, and most of the books have sex scenes in them. And while I enjoy these scenes, I just don't really feel aroused or the need to touch myself. I sometimes get wet but I don't feel anything else. 

I have touched myself and used a few different vibrators, but I've done that more because I want to have an orgasm and know what it's like. Not because I feel the need to do it. I find it pleasurable especially with a vibrator but I still don't orgasm. I feel like I'm getting close but then it just goes away and I get frustrated with myself. I guess I have a few issues going on here.

What should I do? 

Sincerely,

Too Tense and Confused

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How Do I Keep Myself And My Partner Intimate And Connected After Menopause?

How Do I Keep Myself And My Partner Intimate And Connected After Menopause?

Dear Thalia,

I'm a femme lesbian in a committed relationship with a butch. I love my partner and crave her touch and to be near her. I have gone through (early) menopause due to a complete hysterectomy. My desire and sex drive is low at best and sex is often painful (penetration of any kind, despite copious amounts of lube) -- ideas on how to keep us both intimate, connected and sexual?

Sincerely,

GrrlNextDoor

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How Do I Bring Love Back Into My Life Now That I'm In A Wheelchair?

How Do I Bring Love Back Into My Life Now That I'm In A Wheelchair?

Dear Thalia,

I was in an accident a year and a half ago that left me paralyzed from the hips down. How does one enter back into the dating world when I am still learning how my body is now?

Are there other women that will date someone in a wheelchair and see them for the person that they are and not the chair that they have to be in?

Sincerely,

Love and Life

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